Keep Getting Stood Up By Single Mom

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Dear Right Advice,

-BlahBlahBlah- I haven't seen this girl since high school and I saw her a week ago at a club. We hung out -BlahBlahBlah- I got her number. She tells me though that she has a kid from a previous marriage and that he is 1 years old. -BlahBlahBlah- I'm not a big fan of the package deal but I want to give her a shot -BlahBlahBlah- such a sweet girl. -BlahBlahBlah- we end up setting a day to go out to eat. We -BlahBlahBlah- Friday rolls around and I text her to make sure she is still available -BlahBlahBlah- she says that she can't b/c -BlahBlahBlah- her son -BlahBlahBlah- I was completely understandable on that. She said how about a rain check for -BlahBlahBlah- I text her if she is still available to go. -BlahBlahBlah- she texts me back saying she is unable to go tonight and wants to try again for the upcoming weekend. -BlahBlahBlah- I said okay and told her that I would text to see if my work schedule allows me to go out or not. -BlahBlahBlah- How many more opportunities should I give her before I cut her loose? -BlahBlahBlah- I just don't know how much longer I should stick around for. -BlahBlahBlah-

Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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This situation will solve itself when her broken plans become actual blowoffs.

I'm pretty sure that's the path you're on. Cute, sweet single mom's are one of the world's best kept secrets.

You should be stoked that she's interested in you, but instead, you're buggin' out and thinking that you should cap her "opportunities" to see if she runs out the clock.

Maybe you should kick it up a notch and try to make her feel guilty on top of that.

You're setting her up to fail... with a fucking ultimatum... and you haven't even gone out yet!!!

Dude! Her kid is ONE!!!!

Your fucking feelings are at the bottom of her list.

My advice to you: Stop being in such a big fucking rush to vindicate yourself. Your expectations in this situation are unreasonable.

Breakfast Dates

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Dear Right Advice,
-BlahBlahBlah- went on a first -BlahBlahBlah- second time I have met her. We met for breakfast. It went well. while walking to her car -BlahBlahBlah- tried to hold her hand and she instead patted me on the back. -BlahBlahBlah- I texted her -BlahBlahBlah- told her how I liked her -BlahBlahBlah- appologized for the hand thing -BlahBlahBlah- told her I felt a spark. She responded that she enjoyed breakfast too, said I am interesting and easy to talk to. I am to call her on Wednesday about doing something next weekend. -BlahBlahBlah- am I still ok? -BlahBlahBlah-


Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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You're setting yourself up for the worst, most unrequited crush of your life, but hopefully this girl might end up being a pro at giving guys like you the fade.

If you ask one of your (probably many) platonic-girl friends about getting shut down at hand-holding, they'll probably give you a list of hopeful, maybe scenarios. But honestly, what person on a "date," would reject your hand-holding when they could just wait 30 seconds and then find a subtle excuse to drop your hand?

What you can expect to come your way is a whole heap of nothing. Shit, you might even end up demanding a straight up rejection from her in the name of "closure."

Expect her weekend to be booked solid come Wednesday, and because you never boned, there's no need for her to take you on a mercy date so bank on never going out with this girl again. Your only plans with her will be plans to talk later about making plans.

Here's where you fucked up: You had no business trying to go on a breakfast date with this girl. Breakfast dates are for guys confident enough to take the slow, get to know you path.

You're moving at a speed which requires alcohol.

I know hand-holding is to be considered harmless, but considering that going back to her place, walking past her roommates on your way to the bedroom and having her cancel her workout to have unshowered sex with you is tacky as fuck, you might as well declare all "moves," as off limits on breakfast dates.

And why did you follow up getting shot down with a text? Where are your balls and why would you want to punctuate getting shot down with wearing your heart on your sleeve?

"Hey girl, I know that our breakfast was indicative of how you had to chisel out a slot for me to fit into your weekend, and I know you are not comfortable holding my hand, but I just wanted you to know that I'm assigning you some homework in the form of a delicate oration describing how we should just be friends."

My advice to you: No more breakfast dates until you've mastered the art of indifference.