Who is Legally Responsible for My Teen's Baby?

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Dear Right Advice,

-BlahBlahBlah- Is there a website or -BlahBlahBlah- to find out exactly what my legal obligations and rights are as a new grandparent? -BlahBlahBlah- 16yr old daughter with a 9mos. old baby -BlahBlahBlah- both live with me -BlahBlahBlah- she refuses to tell me who she thinks the father is so that we can try to get some type of financial support? -BlahBlahBlah- I have an idea of who it might be, -BlahBlahBlah- I need to know how I would go about legally proceeding with something like this? -BlahBlahBlah- Since I am legally still responsible for my daughter until she is 18yrs. of age, does that mean that I am also just as responsible for my grandchild until then as well?? -BlahBlahBlah-



Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Look bitch,
If you're not up to taking care of your daughter and her baby, then it doesn't matter what your rights and obligations are.

It sounds like you'll be able to take care of your daughter and her baby for the next couple of years... but you're just pissed about having to work harder.

In most states, legally, this is on par with your kid poking another kid's eye out with a stick from the playground. It's your problem.

In most states, it's your problem if your teen daughter has a child; you're responsible. I can't say for sure that an eye-poke, on the playground, sets legal precedent in a case where your daughter's vagina was poked, in some residential construction site, but I'm pretty sure that if the father is named on the birth certificate (and by some stroke of luck, he's still a minor) his parents will be just as much on the hook.

Judging by your abuse of the question-mark, I think that what you truly seek is a solution to this conflict that would require as little effort from you as possible.



My advice to you: Put your daughter, and her baby, into foster care. It will give her and her baby a proper home, and you'll be able to go back to whatever it was you were doing when your daughter was getting fucked in the streets. It's a win/win scenario... unless she figures out how to emancipate herself... then it's just a win for you.

Keep Getting Stood Up By Single Mom

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Dear Right Advice,

-BlahBlahBlah- I haven't seen this girl since high school and I saw her a week ago at a club. We hung out -BlahBlahBlah- I got her number. She tells me though that she has a kid from a previous marriage and that he is 1 years old. -BlahBlahBlah- I'm not a big fan of the package deal but I want to give her a shot -BlahBlahBlah- such a sweet girl. -BlahBlahBlah- we end up setting a day to go out to eat. We -BlahBlahBlah- Friday rolls around and I text her to make sure she is still available -BlahBlahBlah- she says that she can't b/c -BlahBlahBlah- her son -BlahBlahBlah- I was completely understandable on that. She said how about a rain check for -BlahBlahBlah- I text her if she is still available to go. -BlahBlahBlah- she texts me back saying she is unable to go tonight and wants to try again for the upcoming weekend. -BlahBlahBlah- I said okay and told her that I would text to see if my work schedule allows me to go out or not. -BlahBlahBlah- How many more opportunities should I give her before I cut her loose? -BlahBlahBlah- I just don't know how much longer I should stick around for. -BlahBlahBlah-

Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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This situation will solve itself when her broken plans become actual blowoffs.

I'm pretty sure that's the path you're on. Cute, sweet single mom's are one of the world's best kept secrets.

You should be stoked that she's interested in you, but instead, you're buggin' out and thinking that you should cap her "opportunities" to see if she runs out the clock.

Maybe you should kick it up a notch and try to make her feel guilty on top of that.

You're setting her up to fail... with a fucking ultimatum... and you haven't even gone out yet!!!

Dude! Her kid is ONE!!!!

Your fucking feelings are at the bottom of her list.

My advice to you: Stop being in such a big fucking rush to vindicate yourself. Your expectations in this situation are unreasonable.

19-Year-Old With a 9-month-Old

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Dear Right Advice,
-BlahBlahBlah-made it my mission to prove that It's not the end of the world -BlahBlahBlah-I have submerged myself into fulltime college, work, being the best mom ever, am following my dream as a model, all the while being the teen that I -BlahBlahBlah-
This is where problems come in... My typical day ususally consists of school in the morning, spending time with my daughter, then work. After my daughter goes to sleep at 8, I have a babysitter watch her and I go out with friends (or out on a date). I never drink, and I am ALWAYS there when she wakes up. Although it makes perfect sense to me since it makes me a happier mom with some freedom and shes never even knows Im gone, I have been told I am a bad mom for leaving her =(
What do you think?

Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Congratulations on your new puppy... I mean daughter. WTF Really?

Let's move past the fact that you had access to birth control, access to information deeming (single) teenage parenthood as "difficult," and access to certain alternatives (like abor/doption,) and we'll let your decisions lay Not-in-Vain, because you love your child.

There was a time when it was perfectly okay to swaddle your child to a board and hang them on the wall to keep them out of the way. Shit, in those days the kid wouldn't even get a name until age 7 (because most of them died).
Thanks to the advances in pediatric medicine, properly parenting your kid - in every stage of its life - is now a worthwhile investment of your time.

The last time I checked, the top three reasons to fire a babysitter were:
1. Dead Kids
2. Abused Kids
3. Tardiness

Vaginal lacerations and lactating nipples make you nothing more than a pro-bono babysitter.
Giving the kid food, clothes and shelter makes you nothing more than an absentee dad.

Full-time students are full-time STUDENTS. Part-time Students are able to spend more time with their kids.
Aspiring Models tend to marry well.
And, parents who like to go out and party, GO OUT because it's common knowledge that nobody wants to hang out with kids.

Being that you're not of legal age to drink... good job... not drinking.

My advice to you: Stop pretending you don't have a kid.