Dear Right Advice,
-BlahBlahBlah-I employed a young girl who has been down on her luck and pretty much been abandoned by her blood relatives. -BlahBlahBlah- my husband and I offered to let her stay in our spare bedroom -BlahBlahBlah-He and I agreed to let her stay for 2 months. -BlahBlahBlah- The issue lies with her boyfriend. Neither she or her boyfriend come from the "right side of the tracks" -BlahBlahBlah-Based on the things she tells me about him and his family we have decided we don't want him in our home. I have told her this several times. -BlahBlahBlah-the question keeps coming up. -BlahBlahBlah- I am worried the issue will continue to be a problem. -BlahBlahBlah-
Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Look here, Mother Theresa! Abandoned by blood relatives is a bad sign. I know she's told you her sob story, but honestly, parents who abandon their kids through negligence tend to breed a lot, so it's unlikely that she doesn't have a couple older siblings or cousins whom she can stay with. What's more likely is that she shit all over her network of support and now she's enduring tough love, which she's slanted, for you, as abandonment.
That aside, she's already showing signs that she lacks respect for your boundaries. I'm not saying she's a hustler, but if she's not, then she's a lay-down and her boyfriend is the hustler going "just ask again, just ask again."
Each time you say no, you become more and more of a drag to Skid McShadey, which shall lay foundation to the vendetta born when you have to change the locks on day 61.
If you honestly think, that in 2 months, she's going to find a job and save up enough for first, last and damage, then you've already put too much faith in this girl.
Who knows why she has the tenacity to think that your No's might turn into Yes's, but expect her to ask for "just one more week," all the way up to her departure, which I guarantee will be a tearful exit en route to her friend's couch.
My advice to you: Think hard about how much it's worth to you to give this girl a gentle send off, and start saving up to buy her out of your life.
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