Need to Vent About Dirt Bag BF

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Dear Right Advice,

-BlahBlahBlah- I was very pregnant when we met. -BlahBlahBlah- He was caring, comforting, "most wonderful person" etc., now, suspicious behaviour, i.e. always having excuses-BlahBlahBlah- NEVER leaves cell phone out of pocket, -BlahBlahBlah- very accusatory, -BlahBlahBlah- phone records indicate daily calls upward of 15 to and from *&%^&** heroin dealer!!!!!!!! Thinks I can't see he's high, lies -BlahBlahBlah- tells my son I AM ON FLIPPING CRYSTAL METH!!!! -BlahBlahBlah- Has tried 2 brainwash me-BlahBlahBlah- tried 2 pit me against my sisters, best friend, and even my son -BlahBlahBlah- I am the only one with income, he's totally capable of working but has excuses -BlahBlahBlah- excessive and obsessive sex drive 2 the point I feel forced MANY times. -BlahBlahBlah-

Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Believe it or not, the problem isn't him, the problem is your kids.

I'm sure that sometimes you must wonder if he's only with you because you've got income. The only reason you've got income is because you've got kids.

If you get rid of your kids, then it will give him the opportunity to prove to you that he's actually with you, to be with you, and not your EBT and Section 8 subsidies.

Also, with the kids out of the house, you'll be able to dedicate more time to just the two of you.

Come on, let's face it; you already know that this guy needs to be saved and you're the only one who can fix him.



My advice to you: Get those kids out of your house and into a different home. It should be easy. I'm sure the State can help you with that. Just tell your case worker that you're caring for a drug addicted rapist, and the kids are a distraction.

House Guest Pressing Old Issue

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Dear Right Advice,
-BlahBlahBlah-I employed a young girl who has been down on her luck and pretty much been abandoned by her blood relatives. -BlahBlahBlah- my husband and I offered to let her stay in our spare bedroom -BlahBlahBlah-He and I agreed to let her stay for 2 months. -BlahBlahBlah- The issue lies with her boyfriend. Neither she or her boyfriend come from the "right side of the tracks" -BlahBlahBlah-Based on the things she tells me about him and his family we have decided we don't want him in our home. I have told her this several times. -BlahBlahBlah-the question keeps coming up. -BlahBlahBlah- I am worried the issue will continue to be a problem. -BlahBlahBlah-

Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Look here, Mother Theresa! Abandoned by blood relatives is a bad sign. I know she's told you her sob story, but honestly, parents who abandon their kids through negligence tend to breed a lot, so it's unlikely that she doesn't have a couple older siblings or cousins whom she can stay with. What's more likely is that she shit all over her network of support and now she's enduring tough love, which she's slanted, for you, as abandonment.

That aside, she's already showing signs that she lacks respect for your boundaries. I'm not saying she's a hustler, but if she's not, then she's a lay-down and her boyfriend is the hustler going "just ask again, just ask again."

Each time you say no, you become more and more of a drag to Skid McShadey, which shall lay foundation to the vendetta born when you have to change the locks on day 61.

If you honestly think, that in 2 months, she's going to find a job and save up enough for first, last and damage, then you've already put too much faith in this girl.

Who knows why she has the tenacity to think that your No's might turn into Yes's, but expect her to ask for "just one more week," all the way up to her departure, which I guarantee will be a tearful exit en route to her friend's couch.

My advice to you: Think hard about how much it's worth to you to give this girl a gentle send off, and start saving up to buy her out of your life.

Formerly Homeless, Still Unemployed

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Dear Right Advice
-BlahBlahBlah- I moved to Atlanta -BlahBlahBlah- my ex boyfriend called me and said he was homeless -BlahBlahBlah- I took him in.I told him, before he moved in, he would have to get a job and he would have to help me pay bills, -BlahBlahBlah- 6 months later ....He still has no job, and we are about to be evicted. Since he moved in, we have gone through 15000$ -BlahBlahBlah- My family refuses to help me while he is there.If I kick him out, he will be homeless.If I don't kick him out, we will both be homeless.

Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Your ex is unwelcome in your home and he is ruining your life. And you need Advice??????
I figure you're bringing this to me in hopes that I have some creative way to help you not feel like a bad person for kicking this guy out. I don't have one. I mean, you might be able to call your family, ask them for a wire so you can pay your bills and also cut this guy a check for $200 (that's a good price for having a parasite removed). But rest assured that there are places for this guy to go. If he can't get into the Army then he'll definitely find a niche in jail.

My advice to you: Learn quick that un-fucking yourself does not always make you a bad person.