Dear Right Advice,
-BlahBlahBlah- my parents loved my babys dad at the time and they let him move in. And then when my son was born, he became sort of different and not the best father -BlahBlahBlah- not a good boyfriend -BlahBlahBlah- my parents kicked him out -BlahBlahBlah- we broke up. -BlahBlahBlah- my son is turning 2 next month, and my babys dad -BlahBlahBlah- truly belive he has changed and i love him -BlahBlahBlah- I truly believe we could be happy again. -BlahBlahBlah- son needs his father -BlahBlahBlah- he is not seeing him a lot now because i live with my parents. My parents are threatening to not pay for my college, take my car away that they bought, possible kick me out and not be here for me ever again. -BlahBlahBlah- now i am basically behind their back with him trying to figure something out. -BlahBlahBlah- i love my son and want the best for him and i feel that since my parents can provide for him then i should be here. But dont i deserve to be happy too? -BlahBlahBlah-
Sincerely,
-BlahBlahBlah-
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Nope, you do not deserve to be happy too.
You would deserve to be happy if you could find happiness within this sweet deal you're getting from your parents.
This has already been fucking covered.
"You deserve to be happy," is what a counselor says to you when you carry around a bunch of negative baggage. You won't hear a counselor say "You deserve to be happy - and gee - if trying to weigh your happiness against your family's wishes and baby's best interest, is bumming you out, then fuck it! Shit all over your network of support and go roll the dice with the guy who's already let you down."
Your priorities are fucked. Your reasoning is fucked. Your attitude towards your situation is reasonable for a girl your age. The-kid-needs-a-father bullshit is covered by your dad, and if your baby's dad is not coming over to visit, it's either because he's a lazy piece of shit, who doesn't make time to visit, or he's a corrosive piece of shit who has been 86'd by our parents.
My advice to you: Invent a pill that turns babies into puppies, or focus your energy away from your dirt-bag-baby-daddy and towards gaining some independence so your parents won't need to worry about your decision making.
Hello , I am Marry , sorry for your situation , I hope that soon everything will be as you want - no matter what you want, the only thing I want to tell you is that if you are not sure what you want, you can not achieve it, so think good what exactly you want!
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You deserve to be happy, but you have to take responsibility of the situation and do the best with what you have. You can't take any risks with your son.
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Sorry to hear that.But have faith and remember that everything happens for a reason and sooner or later everything will be exactly the way you want it to be.
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ReplyDeleteIf you truly can' do without your guy, put him on a test drive. See how he acts around you (without your son at first) on some occasional meetings, then maybe introduce him back into the baby,s life and so on. Step by step, in order to see if he has changed as he says!
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ReplyDeleteYou need to wory about, what's best for u and your child. Sometimes your happiness doesn't matter when it comes to the well being of ur child. You have to suck it up and be a women... And if your seeing him behind there back ... What happens if they find out and kick you out ? Then you risk the safety of ur baby and if he really, wanted to see the baby bout,a force on this earth would stop him.so if you feel like you really want to be with this guy save.money get a car and a cheap apt. And if you can't do that then suck it up and enjoy your parents spending there time and.money on you cause u won't have that forever
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